Celebs self destructing publicly

Chris Brown accused of physically abusing Rhianna. Michael Phelps caught smoking a bong at a college party. Who will be the next public figure to fall on their sword? I think that it has a lot to do with the fact that these men did not have a strong father figure growing up. I don't want to offend any single mothers, because you really do what's necessary to feed and care for a child. However, it's the dad that checks a boy when he is doing or about to do something stupid. When I was a child, my dad always seemed to catch me right before I would play doctor with a girl, or usually something destructive. As a child, I felt that he was just a kill joy. He was always on me for not opening a door for a woman or just simply slouching! He kept me and my brother in line. This cruel discipline apparently gave me a sense of self esteem and self discipline. The thought of my dad knowing that I was at a party smoking a bong would be enough to make me just say no! The Bible says, fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. As a child, your dad is God! This stays with a person well into adulthood turning fear of your father into respect. Perhaps if Michael Phelps or Chris Brown had that fear growing up, they probably would not be in the situations they are in today. If you are a man who is raising your children, I salute you. When your kids become adults, you will not have to worry about reading about your kids failures in the media.

Do You Have A Man Room?

Hey Fellas!

I'm talking specifically to you men who are married or living with someone. Do you have a man room? Some place in your love nest that is uniquely yours. I don't care if you live in a one-bedroom apartment, every man has to have a corner that is his. In this corner, he can have his Model Ford Mustang collection. For you Trekkie guys, this can be the place where you have your Star Trek Memorabilia. Is doesn't matter just as long as she knows that this place is off limits to her Pot Puree, Ikea stuff, or Throw Pillows! If you don't have a man room, your manhood is dying a slow, quiet death. I was talking with a female friend of my wife. She was telling me how impressed she was with her brother's man room. He had his stuff like his sports memorabilia, pictures, etc...magnificently displayed in his room. It was a place that he could go to whenever he wanted to get in touch with his inner man. To state it more eloquently, it was his shrine! The way she described the room showed me that she was impressed with the fact that even though his woman had taken over the entire house, he managed to carve himself a little corner of the home just for hisself. Even though she didn't really understand his affection for the things he liked. This gave me insight as to how women really feel about a man room. Let me bottom line this for you, they just don't care! She might even find a new level of respect for you. After all, it was your manhood that attracted her to you in the first place, right? So, if you don't have a man room, what's holding you back? It's time that you found some space in the home just for you. When you finish creating your man room, send me some pics of your new space.

Manly things

I guess I started this blog because I wanted a place to put down my thoughts and ideas about authentic manhood. I am no expert on manhood because I think this expertise is acquired over a life time. Ever notice how a man in his 60's will have a completely different outlook on life than a man in his 40's? One thing I can say for sure is that western culture has really screwed up our views on what authentic manhood really is. Take for instance movie stars. In the 40's and 50's, men like Humprey Bogart and Sidney Poitier were the portrayal of men. Back in those times, men were well groomed and very masculine appearing. Even the singers in those times sang in deeper pitches. Today, dudes are more prettier than women.(Just check out The Crying Game if you doubt me!) Also, what happended to those deep tenor and baritone voices of singers like Luther Vandross or even Elvis? (Thank you very much Bee Gees!) A true man shows sensitivity like when he is with his woman or children. Also, a true man recognizes that his hardened exterior features including his voice are what make him unique. He does not try to be anything other than what he was made to be. He does not try to soften his looks or make himself look prettier! If he is truly a man, he knows that it is his masculinity that really attracts a woman. No woman wants to be with a man who is prettier than she is. However, let it be said that a well groomed man is a man who dresses to accentuate his masculine features. A nice pressed pair of slacks, a well groomed face, polished shoes, and a clean ironed shirt tell the world that you are dealing with a man. Wearing wrinkled, un kept clothes and un kept appearance tell the world that you are dealing with a child.